Learning to Live in a Joint-Family System

Living with my in-laws during this Pongal trip has meant experiencing the joint-family system first-hand. It is a way of life that is so foreign to the individualistic, capitalistic society of the United States, and though I can appreciate the values of communal living and tend to disavow individualized capitalism in principle, the practice of …

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A House in the Village

Since I left Pondicherry last July, I’ve been trying to think how to continue this blog while living in New York. They aren’t exactly Postcards from Pondicherry if I’m writing from New York, so I’m considering how I might restructure the format and goals of the blog. But for now, I’m back in Pondicherry for …

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Even Buddhist Weddings Need a Little Drama

So far I've written about the Indian Special Marriage Act registration process, and the excitement of planning a Buddhist/Tamil wedding in three months. This chapter is about our Buddhist wedding ceremony, including traditional rituals and unexpected drama.... We were supposed to meet at the marriage hall at 6pm, for the ceremony to begin at 6:30. …

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